{"id":120,"date":"2017-09-19T00:27:54","date_gmt":"2017-09-19T06:27:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dh.tarasampson.com\/?p=26"},"modified":"2017-09-19T00:27:54","modified_gmt":"2017-09-19T06:27:54","slug":"why-my-dating-life-is-a-mess","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/student-posts\/why-my-dating-life-is-a-mess\/","title":{"rendered":"Why My Dating Life is a Mess"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You&#8217;re probably thinking, &#8220;oh, it can&#8217;t be that bad!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Well&#8230;between the dates of a deer running into the side of our car, being asked to watch the stars with someone who ends up telling you they&#8217;re &#8216;night-blind&#8217; and can&#8217;t even see the stars, and going to the hot springs and ending up in a pool with 3 skinny dipping gay men that met on their missions&#8230;I&#8217;d say it&#8217;s bad.<\/p>\n<p>This &#8220;Sexy&#8221; short story made me think, not really about affairs or about how awful Miranda is for being a mistress, but about how often us girls let &#8220;nice and charming&#8221; guys walk all over us and treat us horribly (even though Miranda was also in the wrong, I totally admit that, but that&#8217;s not my point)<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s surely because they ask us things like this<\/p>\n<p><iframe src=\"http:\/\/giphy.com\/embed\/Y6OITrN9Y7G0M\" width=\"480\" height=\"312\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>&#8230;or look at us like this<\/p>\n<p><iframe src=\"http:\/\/giphy.com\/embed\/D88mPGrW4oWxq\" width=\"480\" height=\"325\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>It is more because, at least in my case (which I feel extremely embarrassed to admit), that us girls enjoy the attention even though it may not be the best attention or the attention we deserve. I tend to give my attention to people that don&#8217;t deserve it. Why? For such a long time, I have been friends with guys that it surprises me when a guy asks me on a date or tells me I&#8217;m pretty; and yes, it feels awesome (until the date goes horribly wrong of course)! Nevertheless, we need to have a conversation with ourselves asking whether not we like the guy just for the attention &#8211; even if it&#8217;s bad attention &#8211; or whether we indeed like the guy!<\/p>\n<p>We NEED to know what we deserve and we NEED to demand it. We need to make sure we are looking for men who don&#8217;t just wink at us or tell us we&#8217;re &#8220;sexy,&#8221; but who love us whole-heartedly and would do anything just to have YOUR attention!<\/p>\n<p>So, here&#8217;s to staying strong and wiping all of those &#8220;Dev&#8217;s&#8221; off our shoulders<\/p>\n<p><iframe src=\"http:\/\/giphy.com\/embed\/xT39D30kecjdm0E3Sw\" width=\"480\" height=\"270\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Sources<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Jhumpa Lahiri. \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/reserve.lib.byu.edu\/course\/13532\/\">Sexy<\/a>.\u201d In <i>Interpreter of Maladies<\/i>. New York: Houghton, 1999. (CR)<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/giphy.com\/gifs\/nfl-rookies-nfl-xT39D30kecjdm0E3Sw\/\"  rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/giphy.com\/gifs\/nfl-rookies-nfl-xT39D30kecjdm0E3Sw\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/giphy.com\/gifs\/joey-tribbiani-friends-Y6OITrN9Y7G0M\/\"  rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/giphy.com\/gifs\/joey-tribbiani-friends-Y6OITrN9Y7G0M\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/giphy.com\/gifs\/hot-wink-james-franco-D88mPGrW4oWxq\/\"  rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/giphy.com\/gifs\/hot-wink-james-franco-D88mPGrW4oWxq\/<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You&rsquo;re probably thinking, &ldquo;oh, it can&rsquo;t be that bad!&rdquo; Well&hellip;between the dates of a deer running into the side of our car, being asked to watch the stars with someone who ends up telling you they&rsquo;re &lsquo;night-blind&rsquo; and can&rsquo;t even see the stars, and going to the hot springs and ending up in a pool with 3 skinny dipping gay men that met on their missions&hellip;I&rsquo;d say it&rsquo;s bad. This &ldquo;Sexy&rdquo; short story made me think, not really about affairs&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dh.tarasampson.com\/uncategorized\/why-my-dating-life-is-a-mess\/\"> Read More<span>  Read More<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_hide_featured_image":false,"_jetpack_featured_image_duplicate_dismissed":0,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-120","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-student-posts"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p9aQyB-1W","jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/120","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=120"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/120\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":125,"href":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/120\/revisions\/125"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=120"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=120"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/briancroxall.net\/f17dh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=120"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}