Why My Dating Life is a Mess

You’re probably thinking, “oh, it can’t be that bad!”

Well…between the dates of a deer running into the side of our car, being asked to watch the stars with someone who ends up telling you they’re ‘night-blind’ and can’t even see the stars, and going to the hot springs and ending up in a pool with 3 skinny dipping gay men that met on their missions…I’d say it’s bad.

This “Sexy” short story made me think, not really about affairs or about how awful Miranda is for being a mistress, but about how often us girls let “nice and charming” guys walk all over us and treat us horribly (even though Miranda was also in the wrong, I totally admit that, but that’s not my point)

It’s surely because they ask us things like this

…or look at us like this

It is more because, at least in my case (which I feel extremely embarrassed to admit), that us girls enjoy the attention even though it may not be the best attention or the attention we deserve. I tend to give my attention to people that don’t deserve it. Why? For such a long time, I have been friends with guys that it surprises me when a guy asks me on a date or tells me I’m pretty; and yes, it feels awesome (until the date goes horribly wrong of course)! Nevertheless, we need to have a conversation with ourselves asking whether not we like the guy just for the attention – even if it’s bad attention – or whether we indeed like the guy!

We NEED to know what we deserve and we NEED to demand it. We need to make sure we are looking for men who don’t just wink at us or tell us we’re “sexy,” but who love us whole-heartedly and would do anything just to have YOUR attention!

So, here’s to staying strong and wiping all of those “Dev’s” off our shoulders